Updated: Aug 30, 2019
Mother's Day is a time to celebrate moms and the mother figures in our life. However, for those who have lost their mother, this special day is fraught with intense emotions that can pop-up in the most unexpected moments.
Similarly, for those of us who are moms, we remember our children who are not with us, whether through miscarriage, infant loss, childhood death or other, yet remain deeply in our hearts.
Coping with our grief and missing our mother (or being a mother) can be arduous. Here are some suggestions on how to deal with loss and sadness whenever those reminders arise:
Instead of dismissing memories because they can be filled with reminders your mom is no longer here, write down those memories and allow them to fill your heart with love and joy. These memories can be shared with your siblings and your children so they will recognize what your mom meant to you.
Put a storybook together with photos, drawings, poems and anecdotes about your mom or being a mom. Highlight what makes mom so special.
Share a meal with your friends using recipes your mom loved.
Join a support group where you can be amongst others who understand what you're going through.
Learn to meditate or get out in nature to reflect on the important lessons your mom taught you.
Join a group that gives back to others. Often the best way to cope with loss is to give your support to others.
Visit an assisted living place and make a new connection with someone who needs your company.
The goal is to learn how to take a day that reminds you of your loss and turn it into a day that reminds you of her love, support and share that with others. It is the opportunity to honor someone and spread that love so her memory lives on.