Updated: Oct 5, 2019
By Jenny R.
It’s difficult to know where to start this journey of love, hope, and family. Chris and Jenny, who have been married for 8 years, were entering the next chapter in their story. We are grateful for finding their story on Instagram, - where they took a journey to help them deal with the grief of losing their son. Here is their story.
They were to be first time parents. In a Halloween Instagram post, they humorously announced “Something Wicked Cute This Way Comes May 2019.” A few weeks later they shared another photo exclaiming, “It’s a Boy” reflecting more of their contagious humor.
The weeks and months progressed, and soon, baby Charlie would be in their arms.
This is where the story took a heartbreaking turn. Jenny went into labor, excitedly awaiting the moment when she would be holding their cherubic baby son. Instead, upon being admitted into Labor & Delivery, they were told Charlie’s heartbeat could not be detected. Doctors determined Charlie’s heartbeat stopped beating sometime since their last check-up, just 2 days before.
Charlie was a beautiful baby boy. As Jenny writes, “He was 8lbs 13oz and 20.5 inches of chunky perfection.”
Instead of bringing Charlie home, they were gifted with a Comfort Cub to help ease their heartache and so they would not leave the hospital with empty arms.
One month after Charlie’s was born, Chris and Jenny decided to B-R-E-A-T-H-E again. Their home surroundings were suffocating. So they took a spontaneous road trip to get away from the memories and pain, and what was to be. Their Comfort Cub, named Baby Bear and dressed in Charlie’s baby outfit, went with them. This journey and the Comfort Cub, is helping Chris and Jenny reset.
“Baby Bear is all we have. Where we go, he goes. Baby Bear is an extension of Charlie. We call him Charlie’s big brother, because he was born first. He’s our ‘adopted son’ and has given us a small way to be the parents we’d imagined we’d be for Charlie.”
Each of one of us is on a journey. Sometimes our plans don’t turn out as we hope. The best we can do is to be hopeful, adjust, take a moment to reflect and B-R-E-A-T-H-E.
The next time you see a couple leaving the hospital or taking a trip holding a Cub, they may be going through an unbelievable grief, a grief so deep only those who know will understand.